What's The Big Idea: Alex Banayan - The #1 reason people don't go for their dreams

"Most of the time, the worst case scenarios are emotional fears and not logical realities … When you start to look at your emotional fears logically, they begin to melt away”


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In today’s episode of What’s the Big Idea, I speak with Alex Banayan about the #1 thing that gets in the way of people taking that first step, and pursuing their dreams.

Alex Banayan is a USA Today bestselling author and global keynote speaker who dropped out of USC at the ripe age of 18 to track down some of the most successful people on the planet. Out of sheer curiosity and purpose, he spent the next 7+ years seeking out and asking these people (Spielberg, Lady Gaga, Maya Angelou, etc.) how they got their first big break. His book titled The Third Door is the culmination of his research on how anyone can turn their dreams into a reality...regardless of where they are starting out.

Key insights Shared:

  • What do you say to the person that’s in a tough spot, surviving or “just trying to get by”

  • Some questions you can ask your fear to reduce its impact

  • Learn about the idea of loss aversion

  • How much more capable people are of change when they hit rock bottom

  • Why most fears are emotional fears and not logical realities

  • The difference between purpose and a calling

  • The difference between an act of service and a contribution

Moments You Don’t Want to Miss:

[2:47] Alex Banayan’s big idea

[3:31] The #1 reason why people do not attempt to go after their dream

[4:35] The Third Door Analogy

[6:24] Where does the fear of success lie?

[9:33] Aversion to losing what we have, even if it’s not what we want

[12:20] Going after a dream when you’re 100% certain

[13:10] Looking fear in the eyes

[17:50] How The Third Door began

[21:40] Why most fears are emotional fears and not logical realities

[25:15] What’s the biggest resistance that you hear from people regarding going after your dreams?

[27:40] Alex’s dream for the world

[30:15] What is the difference between purpose and a calling?

[31:50] How would you articulate the challenge that you were going through?

[33:55] Alex’s vision for how his work impacts the world

[36:20] The difference between an act of service and a contribution


To learn more about Alex Banayan and the Third door, you can visit his site Below:

- https://thirddoorbook.com/

You can also check him out on Instagram & Twitter Below:

- https://www.instagram.com/alexbanayan/

- https://twitter.com/AlexBanayan